Courtship is a dying Tradition

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I believe dating is a seed bed of temptation from the devil. American dating is of the devil. The idea of dating is to date as many people as possible to find the right one for you. "To see whom you like and are compatible with." Many now however date just to date as many people as they can for fun. All of that goes against the biblical principle of Two becoming One not fifty becoming one over and over - till you find the right one. Every time you are in relationship you get emotionally attached. Every time you date and break up you violate your emotional purity and you make yourself emotionally impure for your husband or wife. You have attached you relational and commitment emotion part of your souls to someone else's husband or wife before you commit to your true husband or wife then you break up. Thus you destroy your heart and emotions that God wants pure for you husband or wife. If you kiss or hug a girl you are not going to marry you are kissing and hugging someone else's husband or wife and that IS SIN. This is not a good thing. In the KJV 1 Cor 7:1 says "It is good for a man not to touch a women." If you are not married you do not need to put yourself in a position of temptation. We are to flee from temptation. There is no temptation that is not common to man. We are to avoid the appearances of evil. There is no temptation that is not common to man for God will provide a way out, Just say NO. If we abide in Him we can not sin, 1 John 2:1; 3:3-9. For we do not have a high priest who CAN NOT understand us but who in all ways was tempted as we are and did not sin (Hebrews 4:16). You do not have to sin. We will always be tempted by sin however Jesus Christ was manifest to destroy the works of the devil completely abolishing the power of sin through the power of grace by the leading of the Holy Ghost. We have this authority in Jesus blood to cast down vain imaginations, arguments, and strongholds; sin, sickness, and satan. In Jesus we have all authority. Temptation is not sin taking temptation the feiry darts of temptation into you; allowing the fires of hell to warm. You the fires of hell, sin and temptation only warm you for a time and then they burn you. Galatians 5:18 "If you are lead by the spirit you are not under the lay," "There is no condemnation in the body of Christ," "If you abide in Him You can not sin," "As many as are lead by the spirit are sons of God," "If you are lead by the spirit you will not gratify the sinful nature of the flesh," However if you are not being lead by, living in, walking in, being clothed in, abiding in, and praying in the spirit you are under the law. For the law is the tutor to bring us to Christ that we might repent and receive the free gift of Gods grace, the power of Christ giving us victory over sin. Knowing that no flesh is justified by the works of the law however we establish the law by faith and only by being lead by and obedient to Gods spirit. For the new covenant of love has written the torah upon our hearts that we might obey God for the spirit convicts of sin which is lawlessness, and disobedience to God giving us victory over the bondage and power of sin that we might obey Christ and do the works that Christ has prepared for us before the creation of the world. We are not bound by religion or an works covenant as the Old Covenant we do not have to sacrifice animals Christ did not come to do away with or abolish the torah however He came to establish it. We are to obey Gods word anything else is sin. Gods will is for us to be sanctified, sanctification is the process which leads to holiness, holiness is the open door that allows us and creates the opportunity for us to see Gods glory through intimate personal relationships with God through intimate communions with Him through talking to Him and reading His personal love letter to us. Many over look this being not to concerned about honesty, purity, and commitment. Many get married with no social skills except movies, clubs, etc... but no home life skills having a quite night in prayer, bible study, communication, relationship with God and people, and growing nearer to God are so foreign that scriptures is right when it says that one who is worried about getting married is worried about the flesh but the one who is concerned with the spiritual is spiritual. If God has a perfect plan for you life then your wife or husband should spur you on in God everyday not just a few time. They should become literally one in spirit not one person but one united in spirit. They must know how to agree in the spirit about things and trust God not their flesh. This world including Christians rely to much upon the flesh to get through life. If Jesus is really what we say he is the all in all yes and amen to all Gods promises then we are in sin when we trust ourselves. The word of God says if we abide in Jesus through prayer bible study etc.. we will not sin, 1 John 3:6-9. Jesus and True Christianity radical. The gospel is life changing and eternal. If you truly encounter God you will be change and never be the same and you can not help but change society because of the intimacy you have with Jesus. What ever you put in yourself will come out, by their fruit you will know all people, Matthew 7:16-23; Galatians 5:16-26. I hope this scaring you or you think Gods truth is to hard I am just telling it as the word says it. Gods is radical this may seem hard teaching however it is Gods truth. It is hard on your flesh however God gives complete and total authority over the works of the devil including the flesh. I have been through the process wanting to date to satisfy my flesh but God wont let me because if I do I will get in the flesh and sin against God and that will take me out of His presence and I will not be AS effective as I can be as I obey God sin will effect my ministry and it effects the corporate anointing of the body of Christ. My sin and anyone else's sin has diverse effects on a whole lot of things and makes a difference now and in eternity. Gods love and mercy is eternal and it will affect your rewards, You can not know when Jesus will return. The wages of sin is death, the carnal (fleshly) nature is at enmity, at war with God. Gods gift of grace is a free gift and you can not earn it however we must live HOLY and Without Spot nor wrinkle being filled with the anointing of God having our lamp stands trimmed and filled with the anointing of God eagerly waiting and expecting our bride, Jesus return. If He Comes and we are in sin we can not make it to heaven. Remember this every time you ask for forgiveness you are made 100% holy in spirit however because of our worldliness and lack of knowledge we can not receive it and that is were the process of sanctification, consecration to God comes in were God helps us to become holy. During this God burns away the dross while pruning us. It does not feel good however God is our source and strength. The promise is holiness the goal is intimate communion with God which is achieved through getting the sin out. The promise is "If we draw near to God He will draw near to us." If God draws near us and we are in sin He will ask us to get it out so He can get closer because in Gods presence is no sin at all. He can not approach you when you are in sin. We can not see God without of holiness. Dating gives opportunity to the flesh. I will explain courting in a moment but first I must lay the ground work to help you understand why this is so, an informed position is better than a guess. We can not base doctrine, life, practice and belief on feelings, emotions, experience, or your peer group. Just because your pastor, youth leader, friends or church does not practice this, teach or believe this it does not mean that this is not of God and that we should not do it. If God says do it you do it. Generally in modern dating you go to movies, dinner, clubs, you get alone, cuddle, and kiss all to have fun with people you like to find a mate or just to have fun. All of this allows an open door for temptation to grab a root through action and choice in your heart to sin against God and satan gets a root to try to draw you into deeper sin. In dating you put on you best face and act like someone you are not this gives the person a false image of you. If they can't like you when you first meet them for who you are say bye, bye they are not worth it. If they want money, gift or entertainment they are not seeking the right things. To many are focused on the wrong things such as entertainment people want to be entertained when lost souls are going to hell and miss the importance of there actions and the compromises in their lives and then they try to justify them saying, dating isn't a big thing, I am just testing the waters, how can you know how to use a car unless you test drive it first. Well a human is not a care and the percentage of people who stay married until death is higher with those who wait to date and have sex with their mate after they are married. I have had girls in the past before I was a Christian when I dated tell me if I didn't buy them stuff they would not date me. Well me being who I am said by nice knowing you. I would gladly buy a woman a gift and flowers to surprise her and bless her to show my love but when that is a requirement by by. I believe in intimacy and romance only in marriage. I think that after courting turns into actual marriage then and only then after you are married then you can going out to eat and walking on the beach spontaneously is a good thing you must keep you marriage alive and continually show interest in each others interests as a person and each other relationship with God. Before marriage however these lead to holding hands and kissing which are intimate things with much meaning God created all that in the first place the devil only perverts it. Holding hands and kissing have emotional and fleshly emotions attached to them that cause us to want more naturally because they are only intended for marriage and when guys and girls give these important parts of ourselves away which society has made trite or common place we become violated and less than we should be spiritually and emotionally for our future wife or husband. The bible tells us to let not an unmarried man touch a women. We should not touch a man or women unless we are married. I do not want to kiss or hold hands or any of that before marriage because I do not want those emotional attachment and comfortable pleasing feeling to drive my life and cause me to make a choice because I feel good. The devil can leave you alone and give you peace on anything so you do something that is not Gods will. Marriage has such a major effect on your life that God will and wants to speak to you specifically about whom and when. You must know the person, their call, your spiritual bonding ability first before jumping into a lifelong commitment. Most people do not understand the existents of a marriage vow and how it was a life and death matter. Originally when men committed to marry for their wife they were willing to die for them in life or in death know it is a trite saying we do to get free sex. Be careful who you court even they may not have pure motives. Be ready to ask them a whole lot of important questions. Like why do you want to marry me? What do you mean and what do you expect after marriage? In their answer look at what they say plus the hidden meaning learn the persons character and get a verbal confirmation from God. Ask about their life, history, personal info. etc... If they are not willing to tell before marriage do not think that you will have perfect communication when you get married it will stay the same when you are married. The person will figure that you accept them as they are and will not want to change so if you want openness in communication in marriage you better cultivate it before you are married. To many people say I felt a peace about it God can allow you to feel peace about anything. God will let you do what you want even if it is out of His will however you will be miserable and if you get to heaven will be lacking in your eternal benefits and nearness to God. It is important enough to God for Him to talk to you about. In ministry today in Christianity in general to many of use rely upon ourselves and not the voice or power of God it is time the church be the church. To truly be the body of Christ we must pursue God not our theology. We must abide in Jesus through prayer and bible study.

The Scriptural View on finding a wife in the OT. The father would send a servant to find the son a wife and then the servant would bring the wife to the son. NT courtship is exemplified in Jesus. Yahweh, Jesus father picked us for him and sent the holy ghost through the prophets to prepare us for him then Jesus came and proclaim his engagement through his life allowing us to see who he is and giving us the wedding ring our seal of salvation the precious holy ghost and he shall come again soon to marry us and have a seven year marriage feast and honeymoon.

Courtship is number one you seek God and forget about dating. The people involved in ministry should not be allowed to date while involved in ministry. If God shows you someone you might think He wants you to date you keep it in prayer. Then you go to your parents and have him pray about it and when your parents pray about it and when they feel a confirmation about it then you go to the person you are interested in parents. You never talk to the person about it at this time then you tell the parents and allow them to pray about it and when they feel a confirmation then they tell the daughter then the daughter prays about it then if she feels a confirmation then the family will get together and hang out have a barbeque and get to know each other that way the parents can see how y'all match and you can get feed back and you let the parents plan the times you get together and with who allow the dad of the girls family make the choices. Remember however that parents may not want you to get married and may be holding on to you not listening to God so you must submit to them and pray for them. Submit to God and to your parents. For people parents who are not saved you need to find some spiritual parents whom you can trust. You must pray about a possible mate for a few months after God has revealed them to you. Then go to your spiritual parents then when your spiritual parents feel release they should go to their parents and ask permission. Then the father of the kid should sit down and talk to the kid that want to court to find out they want, why they are interested. After this the father tells the daughter and they pray about it if anyone of them does not feel it is of God then the father tells the guys spiritual parents the answer and that way the girl is not blamed for the hurt it could be that parents and protects the girl in this. You pray, wait and rebuke every thought about marriage refuse my flesh and allow the spirit to lead me and if God shows me my wife I will continue to pray until God tells me to go even then I will fight it to make sure it is not my flesh. According to Paul you want a wife. Pray, wait and do not push Gods timing.

Remember Jesus loves you, pray about this article, read the scriptures and make your decision based upon number what Gods word tells you and then what His spirit tells you in regards to what HE says not based upon what you feel. I love you as a fellow member of the body of Yeshua. The Lord bless you and keep you, Shalom.

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